Dominance and Submission explained
Are you new to D/s and struggling with where to start and what resources to trust? Welcome to the kinky, wild, amazing world of power exchange. Before you get started, remember that everyone has a different experience with and different opinions of D/s and kink.
When you picture Dominace and submission, what do you imagine? COLLARS and naked submissives crawling and kneeling? Probably lots of kinky stuff like floggers and bondage. A bit of rough sex? Let me put another picture in your mind. This is one of laughter and tears, arguments, misunderstandings and lots of coffee. You know, real people in real relationships. While D/s relationships are best known for power dynamics and kink, they're area also really, well, normal.
Being in a D/s relationship doesn’t mean you’ll start dressing up in latex and bondage gear 24/7 all of a sudden though some lifestyle slaves or subs may choose to sport a collar to signify their D/s relationship, others may be wearing a more covert accessories, like labeled underwear, or otherwise appear completely vanilla.
If somebody identifies as being into D/s, or having a D/s relationship, then they probably includes power exchange in other aspects of their relationship. People can identify as dominant, submissive, or switch (which means that they are sometimes dominant and sometimes submissive).
There's are quite a lot of misconceptions about Dominance and submission known as D/s or Ds. One assumption is that D/s is misogyny at its worst with female submissives being abused and/or brainwashed. Another misconception is that men are always Dominate and never submissive in a relationship. It Another is that D/s always involves sex.Let me clear up the inaccuracies and explain Dominance and submission in greater detail.
Dominants and submissives come from all walks of life. They're rich and poor, educated or not, married, or single. They can be male, female, transgender, straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, and anything else on the gender and sexuality spectrum. Despite what you read or see in the movies the relationship isn't about sex in some aspects it could be about the control and there are also other aspects it could be about.
You might wonder how Dominants and submissives are different from tops and bottoms. Anyone can be a top or a bottom in a BDSM scene or any situation. Dominants and submissives internalize those power exchange roles as a part of who they are as people. In other words, D/s is the relationship between two (or more) people.
D/s is a negotiated, consensual power exchange. One person is in charge, and the other person isn't. The amount of control varies from relationship to relationship. The relationship is defined between the parties in the negoations and it does not go outside the defined limits.
For most people, being D/s will be something that they only do some of the time (for example, just in pre-arranged scenes – often). Such scenes could involve any kind of exchange of power. For example, the submissive person might serve the dominant one food, or give them a massage , the dominant person might order the submissive one around or restrain them or punish them in some way, people might act out particular power-based role-plays such as teacher and student, cop and robber, or pirate and captive.
There is no one way on how to enter into a D/s relationship and whatever role you take I hope you remember to be safe sane and consentual on all dealings.
When you picture Dominace and submission, what do you imagine? COLLARS and naked submissives crawling and kneeling? Probably lots of kinky stuff like floggers and bondage. A bit of rough sex? Let me put another picture in your mind. This is one of laughter and tears, arguments, misunderstandings and lots of coffee. You know, real people in real relationships. While D/s relationships are best known for power dynamics and kink, they're area also really, well, normal.
Being in a D/s relationship doesn’t mean you’ll start dressing up in latex and bondage gear 24/7 all of a sudden though some lifestyle slaves or subs may choose to sport a collar to signify their D/s relationship, others may be wearing a more covert accessories, like labeled underwear, or otherwise appear completely vanilla.
If somebody identifies as being into D/s, or having a D/s relationship, then they probably includes power exchange in other aspects of their relationship. People can identify as dominant, submissive, or switch (which means that they are sometimes dominant and sometimes submissive).
There's are quite a lot of misconceptions about Dominance and submission known as D/s or Ds. One assumption is that D/s is misogyny at its worst with female submissives being abused and/or brainwashed. Another misconception is that men are always Dominate and never submissive in a relationship. It Another is that D/s always involves sex.Let me clear up the inaccuracies and explain Dominance and submission in greater detail.
Dominants and submissives come from all walks of life. They're rich and poor, educated or not, married, or single. They can be male, female, transgender, straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, and anything else on the gender and sexuality spectrum. Despite what you read or see in the movies the relationship isn't about sex in some aspects it could be about the control and there are also other aspects it could be about.
You might wonder how Dominants and submissives are different from tops and bottoms. Anyone can be a top or a bottom in a BDSM scene or any situation. Dominants and submissives internalize those power exchange roles as a part of who they are as people. In other words, D/s is the relationship between two (or more) people.
D/s is a negotiated, consensual power exchange. One person is in charge, and the other person isn't. The amount of control varies from relationship to relationship. The relationship is defined between the parties in the negoations and it does not go outside the defined limits.
For most people, being D/s will be something that they only do some of the time (for example, just in pre-arranged scenes – often). Such scenes could involve any kind of exchange of power. For example, the submissive person might serve the dominant one food, or give them a massage , the dominant person might order the submissive one around or restrain them or punish them in some way, people might act out particular power-based role-plays such as teacher and student, cop and robber, or pirate and captive.
There is no one way on how to enter into a D/s relationship and whatever role you take I hope you remember to be safe sane and consentual on all dealings.