Proper Punishments
The main goal of any punishment is so the sub will learn from it for this there are two sides to punishment both physical and mental. Of course, there is a mental component to physical punishment. The true aim of all punishments is to imprint your displeasure on the sub’s mind so that he/she will not repeat the offense. So ultimately all punishment has at its core a mental aspect to it.
Physical punishment is about a form of intended bodily pain on a submissive or slave in a BDSM relationship. The physical always has a component of mental punishment there is no denying it.
Mental punishment relies on psychological effects, mainly emotions, such as shame and guilt.
Physical and Mental punishment can be done together as a means of punishment.
For proper punishments a sub should always know why they are being punished this is the reason it is good to have a talk with your submissive a brief one on why they are being punished. You can start this conversation by saying: You are being punished because or you can ask them “Why are you being punished?” asking allows the sub to actually think about why they are being punished this also keeps the focus on the behavior that needs to change. Not talking to a sub and explaining things may make them feel as if you're punishing them just because you can and could lead to them thinking your abusive in some forms.
The punishment should always fit the crime. Failure to comply with any rules should always result in some sort of punishment. The harshness should be determined by the severity of the misdeed.
Don’t go too soft when you punish. Many times a Dom will be to soft leaving the submissive with a feeling the dom is not strong this Often leads to a split between the two. Being to soft will lead to a disruptive submissive or worse the ending of the relationship. Many Doms who are new to BDSM may hold back, fearing they are going too far, especially if a sub starts crying. But that is where trust in their safewords comes in.
Timing is a crucial part of punishment (even over text message). Usually a sub knows when they mess up, and they dread the after-effects of displeasing their Dom. If the Dom completely forgets to punish it is not effective at all, and many times leaves the submissive feeling the Dom is not doing their part. Sometimes a little time can grow the anticipation and force the sub to meditate on what they did. Remember waiting to long will make the submissive feel neglected and want to leave.
In whatever punishments you chose to dish out remember to have a level of safety involved for it can be damaging and the effects could be everlasting to the submissive.
Physical punishment is about a form of intended bodily pain on a submissive or slave in a BDSM relationship. The physical always has a component of mental punishment there is no denying it.
Mental punishment relies on psychological effects, mainly emotions, such as shame and guilt.
Physical and Mental punishment can be done together as a means of punishment.
For proper punishments a sub should always know why they are being punished this is the reason it is good to have a talk with your submissive a brief one on why they are being punished. You can start this conversation by saying: You are being punished because or you can ask them “Why are you being punished?” asking allows the sub to actually think about why they are being punished this also keeps the focus on the behavior that needs to change. Not talking to a sub and explaining things may make them feel as if you're punishing them just because you can and could lead to them thinking your abusive in some forms.
The punishment should always fit the crime. Failure to comply with any rules should always result in some sort of punishment. The harshness should be determined by the severity of the misdeed.
Don’t go too soft when you punish. Many times a Dom will be to soft leaving the submissive with a feeling the dom is not strong this Often leads to a split between the two. Being to soft will lead to a disruptive submissive or worse the ending of the relationship. Many Doms who are new to BDSM may hold back, fearing they are going too far, especially if a sub starts crying. But that is where trust in their safewords comes in.
Timing is a crucial part of punishment (even over text message). Usually a sub knows when they mess up, and they dread the after-effects of displeasing their Dom. If the Dom completely forgets to punish it is not effective at all, and many times leaves the submissive feeling the Dom is not doing their part. Sometimes a little time can grow the anticipation and force the sub to meditate on what they did. Remember waiting to long will make the submissive feel neglected and want to leave.
In whatever punishments you chose to dish out remember to have a level of safety involved for it can be damaging and the effects could be everlasting to the submissive.