What is bdsm?
What is BDSM?
When most of us hear the letters "BDSM," we think of Rihanna singing about whips and chains or Fifty Shades of grey, but this is nothing of what bdsm really is.
BDSM is broken into three subcategories: Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, and Sadism/Masochism
For novices, the word BDSM is a huge scary word. For the experienced, it is still a huge word, but really what is BDSM?
The BDSM label can apply to many people who regularly practice BDSM in any form (or many forms!) are known as “lifestylers”. These lifestylers take on different roles depending on the type of relationship. From protector to Dominant even a Daddy type, From submissive to slave.
BDSM participants identify themselves in one of three main ways: dominant, submissive, and switch (as oscillating between the first two). It’s important to remember that all of these identities are fluid and continuous, and can change depending on the participants’ mood or partner.
Bondage: A form of restricting a sexual player’s movement, for example, by ropes or handcuffs. This kind of restrainment can increase sexual enjoyment for some, and induce somatosensory (of warmth, coolness, pressure, pain) feelings in different areas of the body.
Discipline: A series of rules and punishments — all agreed upon before a sexual encounter begins — for a (usually) dominant partner to exert control over and dictate the actions of their (usually) submissive partner. The above-mentioned bondage can be a form of, and a vehicle for, discipline.
Dominance: The act of dominating a sexual partner, both in and out of sex. Sometimes, dominants have arrangements with their sexual partner in which they dictate (with the others’ consent) not only their partners’ behavior in bed but also behavior out of it — from food habits to sleep patterns.
Submission: The act of a submissive following their dominant’s actions. They have as much control over deciding what happens to them as their dominant does, even more so, perhaps. Communication between the dominant and submissive is of utmost importance, as that’s where boundaries are set, desires are shared, and permission is given.
Sadism and Masochism, or Sadomasochism: The pleasure that a BDSM participant derives from either inflicting pain (sadism) or receiving pain (masochism); this could also manifest as emotional pain in the form of humiliation. Yes, BDSM can be violent — if the word ‘violent’ is stripped of all negative associations. Called intense sensation play, BDSM can involve hitting, pinching or causing any other physical harm to a sexual partner — but this is all consensual. Consent is the key to a healthy expression of sado-masochism, with an understanding between all partners that the activity could stop at any moment should anybody be uncomfortable with the intensity of play.
In bdsm As in life consent plays a major focus. The point of BDSM is that there is some exchange of power, and if it is not agreed upon, it is not BDSM. If there is no consent, it is abuse.
For some people BDSM can be a big part of everyday lives, but for others it is a spice beyond the ordinary. BDSM can also be an activity that stands for itself without the link to sex. BDSM is only what you decide it is. It is an infinite playground for consenting adults. There is no right or wrong way to explore.
Some of the many misconseptions about bdsm are as followed.
1.BDSM is all about sex. This is not true as many relationship in this type of lifestyle do not even involve sex.
2.BDSM is all about cruelty and abuse. this is not true as bdsm is not about cruelty or abuse at all.
3.People in BDSM allow themselves to be dominated because they are weak. This is not true I find that they are very strong to allow it some even own a business.It's not about people who have no self-worth and being treated like doormats.
4. BDSM is about forcing people to be slaves. This is very commonly mistaken because of movies and pictures. It's not about keeping people in slavery, held against their will and forced to do things they don't want to do. Bdsm is all about consent without the consent it's just considered abuse.
5. It's not a bunch of whip-wielding cartoon women in leather.
6.It's not about what any one person, book, magazine, or website says.