Ssc and rack how can it intwine?
So many people in the life style will tell you they subscribe to safe sane and consentual or risk awareness consentual kink. Each of us has our limits in life as well as our hard limits and soft limits. do Doms, subs, even those who fit in between have limits. The thing is that no one’s limits are going to perfectly line up with another’s, and therefore in each relationship that we embark on we strive to push past our limits, to grow into our roles, to find new interests and develop new levels of intrigue in old interests. Due to the ever-evolving nature of our own interests and limitations, the concept of SSC within itself is insufficient to describe even an individual’s expectations and limitations within the community. What you considered interesting as a child is not necessarily what you consider interesting now.
As our interests and limitations will never perfectly line up with another’s our experiences and the rate of our growth will also differ. So an individual who has never been spanked for erotic purposes might say to another: “Spanking doesn’t sound safe to me,” and the second individual might reply, “Oh, I’ve been spanked many times, and the worst that’s happened is a few bruises and a sore bottom, so it’s completely safe.” Likewise, a group of Doms who enjoy spanking, but are uncomfortable with handling knives might say, “Cutting on a submissive isn’t a safe thing to do,” while a Dom who works in the medical field might say, “These cuts are shallow, well placed, and will be dressed properly afterwards, my sub is very safe.”
Despite these differences, the delicate nature of our community requires that we strive to understand each other, even when our limits and interests do not align. Because of this, Safe, Sane, and Consensual, which is highly limited by our own opinions, interests, and limitations, is simply an inefficient description of what can be considered acceptable in the community. Therefore, in addition to understanding and utilizing SSC, we should also be aware of the philosophy of Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK).
The first phrase is “risk aware.” Generally, it’s taken to mean exactly what it sounds like it should mean: be aware of the risks you take in each scene. Are you tying weights to someone’s nipples? Be aware that you risk cutting off their circulation. Are you gagging someone? Be aware that this may impede that person’s breathing. Are you penetrating someone? Remember that in addition to STDs, it’s possible to pass allergens from one person to another through bodily fluids.
The first phrase is “risk aware.” Generally, it’s taken to mean exactly what it sounds like it should mean: be aware of the risks you take in each scene. Are you tying weights to someone’s nipples? Be aware that you risk cutting off their circulation. Are you gagging someone? Be aware that this may impede that person’s breathing. Are you penetrating someone? Remember that in addition to STDs, it’s possible to pass allergens from one person to another through bodily fluids.
The second phrase is “consensual kink” which should generally be taken to describe the attitude of the participants regarding the activities being invested in. By communicating our interests, we can find people who have similar tastes to our own, by explaining what we each desire, what our limitations are, and what we are willing to do in a particular scene (which should be treated differently than what we are willing to do in general) before embarking on a scene, we can create a consensual environment for each other.
How RACK works with SSC
Often times, those who address the philosophies of Safe, Sane, and Consensual seem to unintentionally indicate that an individual must follow either one or the other. The reality, however, is that they should be used in tandem, as separate, but complimentary terms to describe both your own position and the positions of others.
Safe, Sane, and Consensual can be followed by individuals who have first considered Risk Aware Consensual Kink. After all, it is awareness of the risks involved: the research that an individual does, the practice and care that he or she puts in, and the forethought regarding the impact of each action on his or her partner that will make a situation safe or unsafe, sane or insane. It is the preparation, communication, and shared interests between interacting individuals that creates the air of consent and the joy of experiencing kink.
Ultimately stepping out of our safety zones requires us to assess the risk and to become more aware of the risks associated. Once you become comfortable it's easy to fall into the safe zone.
As our interests and limitations will never perfectly line up with another’s our experiences and the rate of our growth will also differ. So an individual who has never been spanked for erotic purposes might say to another: “Spanking doesn’t sound safe to me,” and the second individual might reply, “Oh, I’ve been spanked many times, and the worst that’s happened is a few bruises and a sore bottom, so it’s completely safe.” Likewise, a group of Doms who enjoy spanking, but are uncomfortable with handling knives might say, “Cutting on a submissive isn’t a safe thing to do,” while a Dom who works in the medical field might say, “These cuts are shallow, well placed, and will be dressed properly afterwards, my sub is very safe.”
Despite these differences, the delicate nature of our community requires that we strive to understand each other, even when our limits and interests do not align. Because of this, Safe, Sane, and Consensual, which is highly limited by our own opinions, interests, and limitations, is simply an inefficient description of what can be considered acceptable in the community. Therefore, in addition to understanding and utilizing SSC, we should also be aware of the philosophy of Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK).
The first phrase is “risk aware.” Generally, it’s taken to mean exactly what it sounds like it should mean: be aware of the risks you take in each scene. Are you tying weights to someone’s nipples? Be aware that you risk cutting off their circulation. Are you gagging someone? Be aware that this may impede that person’s breathing. Are you penetrating someone? Remember that in addition to STDs, it’s possible to pass allergens from one person to another through bodily fluids.
The first phrase is “risk aware.” Generally, it’s taken to mean exactly what it sounds like it should mean: be aware of the risks you take in each scene. Are you tying weights to someone’s nipples? Be aware that you risk cutting off their circulation. Are you gagging someone? Be aware that this may impede that person’s breathing. Are you penetrating someone? Remember that in addition to STDs, it’s possible to pass allergens from one person to another through bodily fluids.
The second phrase is “consensual kink” which should generally be taken to describe the attitude of the participants regarding the activities being invested in. By communicating our interests, we can find people who have similar tastes to our own, by explaining what we each desire, what our limitations are, and what we are willing to do in a particular scene (which should be treated differently than what we are willing to do in general) before embarking on a scene, we can create a consensual environment for each other.
How RACK works with SSC
Often times, those who address the philosophies of Safe, Sane, and Consensual seem to unintentionally indicate that an individual must follow either one or the other. The reality, however, is that they should be used in tandem, as separate, but complimentary terms to describe both your own position and the positions of others.
Safe, Sane, and Consensual can be followed by individuals who have first considered Risk Aware Consensual Kink. After all, it is awareness of the risks involved: the research that an individual does, the practice and care that he or she puts in, and the forethought regarding the impact of each action on his or her partner that will make a situation safe or unsafe, sane or insane. It is the preparation, communication, and shared interests between interacting individuals that creates the air of consent and the joy of experiencing kink.
Ultimately stepping out of our safety zones requires us to assess the risk and to become more aware of the risks associated. Once you become comfortable it's easy to fall into the safe zone.