What is a Switch!
When someone tells you they identify as a Dominant or Master, submissive or slave – you have a pretty good idea what that means. But how about when someone tells you they’re a switch? Well, it means you need to ask more questions. roles. The truth is, there are many shades of gray on the kink spectrum. Lots of people enjoy being what’s called a “switch,” and switching from Dom or sub can be a lot of fun for them.
The definition and meaning of switch
The definition of a switch is someone who enjoys engaging in both Dominant and submissive roles, or both topping and bottoming. Switches are neither 100% dominate or 100% submissive as they have the tendencies for both.
But what does that mean exactly? Well, the answer is: it depends. Here are some aspects about switching:
Switching doesn’t always involve a sexual relationship. You may be a Dom with one partner, but a sub with another. You may enjoy switching, but prefer a specific role. Some couples switch as a way of taking turns, but as your life changes you may switch to fulfill an emotional need.
Switch couples may take turn both Dominating and submitting, a switch may be submissive to someone, but have a sub themselves, while some may even
Switches come from all walks of life from rich to poor from your next door neighbor to your boss at work, but each personal experience is different. Switching is NOT for Everyone and this may be the most important tip to get across right at the start. There are some Doms/Dommes and subs who simply will not find it enjoyable to switch roles. Many partners may consent to reverse roles, just to try it, only to discover that it is not for them. This is something that has to be respected
Common myths about switches:
People often shy away from admitting they like to switch because they fear derision.
Being a switch is just as valuable a role as either of the others. The art of being able to fully submit or be a Top at one moment or another takes a very strong person that knows exactly what they want from BDSM and goes out to get it.
Hopefully, I’ve cleared your head about whether a switch can exist in a D/s relationship and in SM play. But can both partners be switches?
It is most certainly possible for both people to be switches in a relationship, but it can be quite difficult balancing the needs of each other without a lot of compromise. What happens if you both feel like being submissive at that moment? Or Dominant in others? It’s certainly a hurdle to get over to make sure you both can get what you need from each other and often why some of the couples I’ve met over the years who both identify as switch have open relationships. They have come to a decision for what role they want within their primary relationship, and then their external relationship feeds their other needs.